Hobbies Astrology Attract the Aries Man Share PINTEREST Email Print Uriel Sinai / Getty Images Astrology Love & Compatibility Basics 12 Signs of the Zodiac Trends & Horoscopes The Sun & Sun Signs The Moon & Moon Signs The Houses By Molly Hall Molly Hall is an astrologer, tarot reader, and author of "Astrology: A Complete Illustrated Guide to the Zodiac." our editorial process Molly Hall Updated September 09, 2018 The Aries man likes to play the hero and will rush to protect his partner or crush. But (straight) Aries men also want their feminine counterpart to hold their own, and even challenge them. They get up in your face and want you to do the same! They like to fight, argue, and tease. As a result, an Aries man can't be intimidated by strong (masculine) energy. So here's the paradox of the Aries man: many of them like ultra-feminine women who also have an edge and don't wilt under their very direct Aries glaze. Aries men can have a directness that's unnerving if you're not expecting it. They like to test boundaries and will be demanding about what they want. This kind of passion is attractive to the right woman, as she'll feel very desirable and with all eyes on her. Man From Mars The Aries man is ruled by the red planet Mars, and that syncs with his very masculine persona. Many Aries people are physically charged up, spending a lot of time with friends, sparring and competing. The Aries man has a great physicality that's part of his presence, and he's known to be the cock-of-the-walk for this reason. He fights hard and plays hard and is often the alpha among his friends. He needs his freedom to go off and test himself, and sometimes this means throwing sparks with other women. Being with an Aries means being okay with that innocent-in-the-moment quality of Aries that makes them at times utterly insensitive. If you feel secure in your bond, you might see his flirty antics as play, and nothing more. Me, Myself, and I The young ones especially are very self-absorbed, with their attention alighting here and there. There's a touch of the newborn in Aries men. They yell like babies and also punch out furiously if their needs aren't met. On that note, the Aries man is so absorbed in the moment that he may not notice you at first. He's got his eyes on the next prize. This makes it easier to observe him from afar and develop a huge crush. When his gaze finally does beam on you, don't play shy or too smitten. He doesn't want a done deal. That's an instant turn-off to such a forceful and confident fire sign guy. He's oriented toward action as a fire sign, as well as inspiration. He's looking for tension in romance, the thrill of the chase, with the goodies kept at a tantalizing distance until the right moment. In old-school lingo, the game that works for him is called playing hard to get. Ardent Lover The Aries Man is full steam ahead and gains momentum as the night goes on. You've got to have energy to spare to keep up. It's tempting to go along for the ride since his energy has an animating effect. But it's wise to retain your own sense of rhythm in the relationship, what feels balanced for you. He's thrilling but self-centered, and you should let that rub off on you in a healthy way. He'll respect you for it and come back for more. And that's the tricky part, dealing with that super-sized ego. He doesn't want a pushover, but does need a fair amount of ego stroking. An insecure Aries will "fake it 'til he makes it," and that's admirable. So he might want you to treat him as if he's made it, too, instead of pointing out how far he's got to go. He's bright and will respond to direct, daring communications. He likes mental challenges like chess or pool. When he struts and swaggers around the room, let him know he's met his feisty, haughty, quick-witted match. He's a cardinal sign and the top initiator of the Zodiac—he's always starting something new. Facing fears and moving toward your own dreams will impress him the most, as will standing up to him when he's an arrogant jerk. A relationship that is fresh and full of new revelations keeps him by your side. Despite his headstrong ways, he is known to be loyal. In the end, the best path to attracting the Aries man is to be your most inspired self and let the chips fall where they may.