Are There Any Legitimate Adult Dating Sites Out There?

Avoiding Scams and Getting Good Results

Trista Weibell

Stephen asks: "I am trying to find a 'real' adult dating site. It seems all that I have come across do not have real/true information... as if it has been hyped to get you to join. Amateur Match is one for sure. The people on there either do not exist or are trumped up. I sent the company an email to complain, but they didn't reply. And when I clicked on a picture, the city and/or state changed to someplace nearby...

what a scam. There has to be a legitimate adult dating site out there. Help?"

Finding a Legitimate Dating Site

Welcome, Stephen, and thanks to my colleague, sexuality expert Cory Silverberg, for sending you my way. To answer your question: it depends on what you mean by legitimate. Are you looking for an adult dating site that caters to adult encounters or casual sex, that isn't full of scammers or fake profiles? If that's the case, I'll admit it's pretty hard to find.

It's pretty hard for any site these days (especially the big ones) to stop fake profiles and scammers from signing up, but I think I get what you're after. There are a lot of adult dating sites that don't have a lot of  users, or use sneaky marketing tactics like the bait and switch you're referring to. We've all seen them - the ads show a bevy of beautiful women in your area, but when you sign up, you realize that the women were just ads that were geographically targeted to your search preferences.

Even sites that may once have been good can go bad. They may be sold to a different owner who uses different standards or may engage in some of those shady practices to boost membership and use. It is a "buyer beware" market.

You simply have to watch your back on any online dating site. Always be wary of the signs of an internet dating scam.

We can all help keep each other safe by reporting dating scams.

Recommendations for Dating Sites

These recommendations are just for a snapshot in time. Good sites can go bad, and those I don't recommend may improve. Of course, new sites will debut that may or may not be of merit.

My first recommendation would be to try Lavalife's Intimate Encounters section; you sign up with them and then decide which of the three sections you want to be a part of (Dating, Relationships or Intimate Encounters). You can use different handles in each section under the same account too, so no one will be any wiser if you want to advertise for one thing in one place without ruining your chances for something more should it come up.

After Lavalife, I only know of a few others that are worth mentioning, although I've yet to find one that's truly ideal. My preferences would be Club Intimate, Fling, Adult Match Doctor, and Get It On,

As for adult dating sites that I don't recommend, see my reviews for ShagPal and Adult Friend Finder.