36 Questions to Make a Lesbian Fall in Love

Lesbian Love Questions
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There’s a famous quiz  circulating on the Internet, based on a psychological study that explores whether asking someone a series of certain questions can help them fall in love. The personal questions are divided into three sets, each getting a bit more intimate than the next. Then at the end, the couples stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes. The idea is that the mutual vulnerability breaks down walls and creates an intimacy that allows two people to fall in love.

I love this idea and, with absolutely no scientific research to back it up, have come up with my own 36 Questions to make a Lesbian Fall in Love.  Take the time to answer these questions with someone you are dating or with your partner. For best results, alternate back and forth who asks and answers each question first.

36 Questions to Make a Lesbian Fall in Love

First Set:

  1. If you could have dinner with one famous lesbian, who would it be and why?
  2. How did you come out to your parents?
  3. When did you first realize being gay was a thing or an option?
  4. If you could have one superpower what would it be?
  5. If you could go back in time, what era would you live in and why?
  6. If money or time were not an obstacle, what would be the perfect way to spend a day?
  7. Name three things in life you are grateful for.
  8. Do you have a theme song? What is it?
  9. What are three things you think we have in common?
  10. Have you ever felt limited by your sexual orientation?
  11. What is your greatest fear for the planet or future generations?
  12. Do you use a label, like butch or femme? Why or why not?

Second Set:

  1.  What is the thing in your life you are most proud of?
  2. Did you have an LGBT mentor?
  3. Do you consider yourself an artist or a writer?
  4. Do you meditate or have a spiritual practice?
  5. Do you remember your dreams?
  6. What do you listen to in your car? Do you sing along? What are your favorite songs to sing along to?
  7. What is your #1 guilty pleasure?
  8. What makes you cry or tear up?
  9. Do you have any queer relationship role models? What do you admire about these couples?
  10. Who is your biggest celebrity crush?
  11. Name three positive characteristics of your partner.
  12.  Were you born a lesbian or did you choose it?

Third Set:

  1. Tell me something that you think is important for a new partner to know about you.
  2. Say something you think we have in common.
  3. If you died today, would people be shocked at anything they find in your house?
  4. How do you express love—words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service or physical touch? How do you want love to be expressed to you?
  5. Do you keep a journal or diary? What sorts of things do you document?
  6. What personality trait is most desirable/attractive to you?
  7. What do you believe happens when you die?
  8. Does your astrological sign describe you accurately? In what way?
  9. Do you want to have children?
  10. If you could do anything in the world, what would it be?
  11. What would be your spirit animal and why?
  12. What body part is most compelling/erotic to you? What is the favorite part of your own body? 

Optional: Now, set a timer and  stare into each other's eyes for 4 minutes.